there is something so special about letting your life be yours, and embracing privacy is one of the best gifts you can give yourself -- deeply resonated with this :)
oof, the LinkedIn mention! It's so dystopian that we have to perform love and allegiance to our careers to be considered "good" candidates. This piece helped me feel less isolated in my resistance - thank you!
“I’m still learning this. I no longer share my business aspirations with anyone even my therapist. I no longer seek to validate my growth through others eyes. I’m embarrassed just thinking about the times I dominated conversations due to my need of being seen.”
I’d love for you to further go into this. This paragraph really stuck out to me. Do you stop telling everyone your business? How did you manage to stop doing so? Loved reading this!
Sorry for the late reply, yes, I'd mention things abstractly and in passing, but never in great detail. I've found I wasn't acknowledging myself enough, so I'd write or record myself talking about what I desire, need, and want. I'd capture a moment I was upset, fond of, or confused by. Once I feel like I have exhausted the subject with myself, I wouldn't feel the need to share it with others.
This is a game changer. I am certainly going to try this. I often find myself getting “advice” from everyone. I wish to remain mysterious, and not have everyone know my business. I’m excited to try this thank you so much for the insight!
Privacy really is the ultimate flex. There’s something refreshing about choosing not to document every moment—especially when so much of our lives already feel like a constant performance. But it’s not just about “mystery” or pulling a disappearing act. It’s about reclaiming the parts of yourself that don’t need an audience.
At the same time, the pressure to share isn’t going anywhere—especially if you’re building something. For a lot of us, being online feels less like a choice and more like a job requirement. Platforms blur the line between personal and professional so much that stepping back can feel like career sabotage.
Maybe the real power move is realizing that privacy and visibility don’t have to be all-or-nothing. You can curate what you share while keeping the most valuable parts of yourself offline. That balance? Now that’s sexy.
As someone who has always been private even at very young age & could never really get into social media & the constant posting about my life. I loved thissssss! I found my ppl! I don’t need/ want ppl to know anything about me really through social media & I get to release information about myself as i please when I have interactions/ conversations w ppl.
I’m reading this as I’m having my morning coffee. My wife, our best friend and myself sitting at the dining table. All of us with our necks bent down over our phones. Sad innit. Thank you for the read.
i always lived for other people to see and i felt the need to just update everyone on my snapchat and instagram, i felt like i needed to live for show, but now i truly dgaf about anyone i disappeared from social media and i haven't felt better
Heavy on the LinkedIn part
Very, please let it go...
HEAVYY
I agree
there is something so special about letting your life be yours, and embracing privacy is one of the best gifts you can give yourself -- deeply resonated with this :)
A lil social media separation never hurt anyone!
oof, the LinkedIn mention! It's so dystopian that we have to perform love and allegiance to our careers to be considered "good" candidates. This piece helped me feel less isolated in my resistance - thank you!
“I’m still learning this. I no longer share my business aspirations with anyone even my therapist. I no longer seek to validate my growth through others eyes. I’m embarrassed just thinking about the times I dominated conversations due to my need of being seen.”
I’d love for you to further go into this. This paragraph really stuck out to me. Do you stop telling everyone your business? How did you manage to stop doing so? Loved reading this!
Sorry for the late reply, yes, I'd mention things abstractly and in passing, but never in great detail. I've found I wasn't acknowledging myself enough, so I'd write or record myself talking about what I desire, need, and want. I'd capture a moment I was upset, fond of, or confused by. Once I feel like I have exhausted the subject with myself, I wouldn't feel the need to share it with others.
This is a game changer. I am certainly going to try this. I often find myself getting “advice” from everyone. I wish to remain mysterious, and not have everyone know my business. I’m excited to try this thank you so much for the insight!
I feel you wholeheartedly! I hope you find your power in silence.
Being a mystery is sooooo sexy
Heavy on the LinkedIn please, you don't have to know everything about me😭😭
Amen, felt. Thanks for distinguishing that privacy is not isolation. In this day it can definitely feel like that.
I LOVE THIS!!! it’s perfectly articulated in the way i want to be perceived with my social media now with the utmost privacy
I'm so happy for you. Truly, I know how good it can feel to remove yourself from a digital stage.
Privacy really is the ultimate flex. There’s something refreshing about choosing not to document every moment—especially when so much of our lives already feel like a constant performance. But it’s not just about “mystery” or pulling a disappearing act. It’s about reclaiming the parts of yourself that don’t need an audience.
At the same time, the pressure to share isn’t going anywhere—especially if you’re building something. For a lot of us, being online feels less like a choice and more like a job requirement. Platforms blur the line between personal and professional so much that stepping back can feel like career sabotage.
Maybe the real power move is realizing that privacy and visibility don’t have to be all-or-nothing. You can curate what you share while keeping the most valuable parts of yourself offline. That balance? Now that’s sexy.
As someone who has always been private even at very young age & could never really get into social media & the constant posting about my life. I loved thissssss! I found my ppl! I don’t need/ want ppl to know anything about me really through social media & I get to release information about myself as i please when I have interactions/ conversations w ppl.
agree with your point! Also want to add
that vast majority of accounts in
social media seeks for recognition
nowadays. I do think that it would be
great to see more expression of
people's own vibe and aesthetic
instead of trying to fit standards.
It was pleasantly to read though!
I’m reading this as I’m having my morning coffee. My wife, our best friend and myself sitting at the dining table. All of us with our necks bent down over our phones. Sad innit. Thank you for the read.
i always lived for other people to see and i felt the need to just update everyone on my snapchat and instagram, i felt like i needed to live for show, but now i truly dgaf about anyone i disappeared from social media and i haven't felt better
This is my life’s philosophy right now. I just want to be hidden, doing whatever makes me happy.
Feeling like you need to be on social media to run a business and then falling for endless scrolling is so real